Love is an Action

Originally posted 6/3/2021, today it is posted with a few additions. Listen closely y’all, I’m gonna get a little feisty about something and I need you to hear what I’m saying. I need you to listen deeply. Love is a verb. You show exactly how little or how much love y’all have for a thing or a person by where […]

I feel fine, I am fine

I repeat it like a mantra, ad nauseum “I feel fine, I am fine” I learn to take a deep breath before I ask questions that could cause a snap. “I feel fine, I am fine.” I learn to look for signs and details nobody else sees. “I feel fine, I am fine.” I learn to understand that the pain […]

Today is my birthday

Today is my birthday. Yesterday I was thinking about my life, why I sometimes feel like I am about twenty thousand years older than I really am, and what in the world I am going to do with the rest of it. In truth, four decades after it began, it seems as though I am only just now coming into […]

Next Write Thing Challenge

If you remember a few months back I ran a writing challenge for those of us who wanted to get back to our writing, and writing consistently. And, a couple of weeks ago I posted that I was working on another challenge I would be posting for folks who were interested. Well, here I am again. And here it is! […]

The Next Write Thing

Back in October, I challenged myself and a handful of you to “just write something” over the course of several weeks. We started with a few minutes, and build our writing tolerances up to a half hour. We started with some questions that could take on their own life, even if you weren’t a writer you would have something to […]

It’s going to get messier.

“It’s going to get a lot messier.“ That’s the title of the book I am feeling the universe nudging me to write. “It is going to get a lot messier” We don’t talk about it. We don’t talk about how really examining the work we do and the impact of it, will be so so messy. And we double don’t […]

Gentle reminder: facts

Or in other words.. Trans people are people. Trans people deserve love, respect, and care. Even as children.Abortion is Healthcare. Healthcare that is vital.Black lives are worthy. Worthy of all good things.LGBTQIA2S+ marriages are valid. And the products of these marriages are lovely.Biological relation isn’t a free pass. Blood may be thicker than water, but water is life.Colonization is harmful.White […]

Gentle Reminder: Choice and Consent

Dear friends and colleagues in anti-violence, I would like to believe that most of you really mean well when you decide things for those of us who have experienced abuse and exploitation, but I want to be really frank with you that it is difficult to do so. It makes it a challenge to believe much of what you may […]

Gentle Reminder: recruit

I know, its hard to remember this because the world has taught us that relationship-first isn’t a good way to operate a business or a nonprofit budget. But the thing is, if you really want our input and influence, if you really want us to have a voice, if you really want to learn from us… you can’t recruit us.

#JuWriSoMos Challenge, final reflection

Dear First Ever Participants of the #JuWriSoMos Challenge, This past one hundred and six days have been such a fascinating journey. There has been so much going on in my daily life during this time, and I know that each of you have had a lot going on during this time too! To be able to write this letter, my […]